Psychology of a goal! (Part 3 of 4 Goals Series)

What are your goals?

Two days ago, I wrote how to structure your goals, but I never explained why. Today I will do so!

Part One - Listing it: This gives you the opportunity to see what is truly important to you at that moment! You're not organizing your goals, you are just trying to figure out what's most important at this step.

Part Two- Visualizing success: You write the goal as you have already achieved it. Example : “I have…. on Dec 26th…”

I don’t use “I will” or “I want”, I use “I have”, it leaves no room for second guessing, you are setting yourself up for success.

At the end I give a date!

This is another step for accountability and action. If you don’t include a date you allow yourself too much time to complete your goal.

Next are the steps!

Without including the steps, your goal becomes a car without a steering wheel. What do I mean by that? You have to steer the car to get where you want, that is what steps are in a goal - the steering. But, don’t become so inflexible with your steps that you sight of your goals.

The psychological effects of goal setting are just as important as the goals themselves. Remember you are setting yourself up for success not distress!

Are your goals hindering you or enhancing you? Let me know in the comments below I would love to help out!

Productivity, Goals and Accountability (2 of 4)

How do productivity and goals intertwine? There are so many aspects in which your goals can either hinder or enhance your productivity! As of right now I am a doing one of my daily goals (writing a daily blog post).

So, to be more productive, goals are a must. Let’s break down how I write my goals.

First I do it in list form.

Secondly, I write two styles of goals, one vague and one precise. Any goal that is vague is something I want to do but haven’t put much thought or energy into it. Precise goals are goals that have the steps included to achieve them. Examples:

1) Go to UK. ( Vague Goal, no steps, no measurability, no end date.)

2) I have 500 followers on Google + on Dec 29th 2013.

• Follow share, like, comment guidelines.
• Respond to any mentions
• Engage in HOA chats
• Join congruent communities
• If its Dec 28th think of creating or joining a circle share (to me circle shares are a quick and easy way to find people but not everyone in them is going to focused on your content)

(These are actual goals of mine and how I set them up from what’s most important to least)

If some reason you don’t hit the goal in the target time frame extend out the deadline. Just do not put that extension in your how to achieve list. I repeat DO NOT PUT THE EXTENSION IN YOUR HOW TO LIST. The second you do so you allow yourself a get out of jail free card. You need to hold yourself accountable.  I am making myself accountable to you just by posting this.

What is your plan for productivity?  Let me and my readers know by posting in the comments below.

 

Setting Goals Series (Part 1 of 4)

Are you setting goals correctly?

How many goals do you have? If you are anything like me 20 or 30? Maybe more? Well did you know that some experts say that you should have 100's of goals. (Brian Tracy http://www.briantracy.com/catalog/the-ultimate-goals-program  unaffiliated with Mr.Tracy or any of his products besides that I use them). With that in mind how do you get to 100 goals? What should be on your goal list? Well lets start with a writing exercise. Let's spend the next 30 days writing down your dreams. All of them from making millions to learning to play the spoons! ( I know someone out there wants to learn how to play the spoons) As you start writing let your imagination run wild. It can be small as too having an hour of free time a day to being so rich Bill Gates is jealous. As you start writing these dreams start to visual them and yourself achieving them? How does it make you feel? You will also noticed that you may actual start doing things on this dream list without even thinking on it! 

           So, it's time to go back to goal making. If you are in for this journey we will spend the next few days discussing goals and how to maximize your goal setting skills and achieving them. So with that tell me one goal that you want to achieve by the end of this week and we will break it down into steps to achieve! 

Social Media Engagement (Part 4)

What’s the difference between engagement face to face or via social media (Google +, Facebook, Twitter)? Nothing! Wait, what do I mean by nothing. Exactly that nothing!

The steps are the same, the process the same. There are some key differences though. You can’t just randomly look up people to engage. That might be creepy. So, what then?

Communities, blogs, videos, all have this marvelous button called comment! Use it to your advantage. Join a community you're interested in ask a question and engage accordingly. Make sure to know the rules before posting.

For this step you need to have a game plan! Having a game plan for engagement doesn’t mean trying to control the conversation on social media. It’s steps to take to maximize growth potential and engagement opportunity.

Example Conversation. How to Engage. (Part 3 of 4)

“Oh, were you interested in ( at this time we will say you were wearing a product’s shirt any product that is how the conversation starts from the previous piece)?”

“I am not sure. I have heard mixed reviews, and I’m a bit concerned with the cost!”

“Oh, you must know a few people who have done/used it (program or product) then?”

“Yes, they loved it and got great results, but I don’t know if I would!”

"They always say you get what you put in! So, besides cost what are your reservations?” ( Yes he has already given you one but you are not really bringing it to the forefront with what you said plus you are changing it to what he or she is really concerned about).

“You have seen it works.... but?"

"I am too (insert whatever insecurity or BS answer here)”. (Don't try to negate or work around this, empathizes with them, if your product has helped someone lose a ton of weight or gain confidence tell that story. Also don't I repeat don't claim it as your own.)

I am hoping you are starting to understand this process. Engagement has some key factors, lets go over them again:

                   

• It's not about you!
• If you are not listening (actively listening) you are not engaging.
• Are you empathetic or sympathetic?  You need to have empathy to be truly engaging.
• Its not about you (yes its that important I listed it twice).

If you are actively engaging your party, they will open up! Why? Because you are talking about the greatest subject - them. Anytime someone asks about you don't you open up like a book? Same principle.

In this step you need to analyze your own strengths and weaknesses. I would recommend writing them down, so you can come back to them 10, 20, 30,45 days from now. Also write what you want to improve and how you are going to get there. Improving yourself is just as important as helping another if not more so!

What practices do you use for great engagement? Let me know in the comments below.

Engagement ( Part 2)

Most people in a fitness business, are trying to not only help people be successful but also trying to generate income by being helpful. It seems like the best of both worlds. But, how do you come off sincere and actually be sincere in your endeavors. Well as I talked about yesterday, you need to be on their wave length. Now you need to be their emotional, spiritually, and physically. How can you be on someone elses wave length physically when you weight 180lbs can bench 320 and they are over weight, out of shape and just not that healthy. Empathy! Remember there was once a time when you felt like that or even may have looked like that. Use that as your wake up call!

So now I have your attention, you are trying to make an emotional connection with this person who you feel would be a great benefit to your business. How do you go from just chit-chatting to an emotional process and how it takes to get there?

Well that is how I can help explain the process and the thoughtage of this!
So you just said hello to this person and are giving them the 5th degree questions and questions and questions! WELL STOP!!! Go back a few steps and realize this is your second mistake! I know what you are thinking what do you mean I made a mistake! Well think of it this way you meet this random stranger and you start talking then he starts talking to you about whatever then he starts asking question after question after question! Mind has turned off no emotional connection, you lost me.

This step is called engagement for a reason. You need to be engaging! Not invasive. It takes 2-20 minutes of in direct talking to really gauge someone before you can make an emotional connection. If you start mentioning business in that time you lost me, you ask 100 and 1 questions you lost me. Why because at that point and time its not about me, its about you and what you can get out of it. Remember its not about you! Its about me ( the other person you are speaking too)

Here is a simple conversation

You are standing in line at your local grocery store wearing your hard earned (insert whatever brand you like to work for ) shirt. Behind you is an overweight gentleman he keeps looking at you and your shirt then finally says to you " So, did you get good results with ....(again insert whatever brand you work or like to work for)?"
 Stop and take the time to think about this answer.
"Oh yes, I lost blah blah blah blah blah....." ( you just lost me! I am serious I am lost. Why? Why you ask because you just made it about yourself. You just failed a shit test. (An expression used by the seduction community to show if you are of low value) Wait what? How did that happen he asked you answered. He doesn't give two craps if you lost 10lbs or 100lbs its an opener he is interested but not in your journey.
Well how would I respond... should I tell you! Maybe hahah just kidding. Well you will come up with that answer in due time!

Engagement (step 1 of 4)

This will just be an overview of the first step, in my evolving process on how to become a great success in your field. 

Step 1. Engagement. 

To be a great success in any business you have to have engagement. Which can be as simple as saying hello or to a 20 page letter in the mail. With engagement you are opening the door to a relationship that may or may not exist. This can be difficult for some because you are trying to come up with the perfect thing to say to these people to get become engaged in your endeavor. How about your thinking in the opposite direction you want to be on there endeavor. You need to be on their wave length. Make friends first and business second or third or fourth or last! Your objective isn't about what they can do for you but what you can do for them. A lot of people already know this but do you know why? Or how about what this causes as an emotional response to you or what is going to happen after that initial response? I am going to assume ( I know the old additive) the answer is no. That is ok I can answer those questions and more with my next free blog post!